{"id":1159,"date":"2018-08-20T00:00:01","date_gmt":"2018-08-20T06:00:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.melaniebnewman.com\/staging\/9944\/?p=1159"},"modified":"2022-04-18T15:52:09","modified_gmt":"2022-04-18T21:52:09","slug":"surprise-emotions-what-to-do-with-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.melaniebnewman.com\/staging\/9944\/surprise-emotions-what-to-do-with-them\/","title":{"rendered":"Surprise Emotions! What to do with them."},"content":{"rendered":"

I was feeling emotional a couple of weeks ago for no apparent reason.<\/p>\n

It may have been because of the lunar eclipse. Maybe it was due to fatigue or stress. It may have been because of a thought I was thinking, or because of a physical reason such as a chemical or hormonal imbalance.<\/p>\n

The point is, I didn\u2019t know why I felt like crying<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Because of my work as a mentor and SimplyHealed\u2122<\/sup> practitioner, I know there are times when the best thing is to discover the reason and eliminate the cause.<\/p>\n

But in this case, my attempts to identify reasons why I might be feeling the way I was, were actually making things worse<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

I thought of how I regretted that I woke up later than I had wanted to that morning. I felt bad that I hadn\u2019t spent more time with my children. I worried that I wasn\u2019t supporting my husband the way he needed me to. On and on my thoughts went.<\/p>\n

Searching for a reason caused me to emotionally start spiraling downward.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I finally realized the problem!<\/p>\n

I was trying to assign cause to the way I was feeling. I was creating stories to explain the emotion.<\/h3>\n

When we ask ourselves \u201cwhy,\u201d the brain gets to work, trying to provide answers. But the answers it comes up with are often not accurate or true.<\/p>\n

These stories that I was creating were just that, stories. They were not true and they were just adding fuel to the emotional fire.<\/p>\n

Luckily it didn\u2019t take me long to realize what was happening and I quickly stopped that direction of thinking and asked myself if it was possible to just allow myself to feel without assigning a reason?<\/p>\n

The answer came to me, yes, and with that yes, suddenly the heaviness of the emotions lifted! I didn\u2019t need to have a reason. I just needed to acknowledge and allow.<\/p>\n

I had given myself permission to just feel.<\/h3>\n

Sometimes it is necessary to dig a bit deeper to release the underlying cause, but other times it\u2019s enough to<\/p>\n