{"id":1250,"date":"2018-11-26T00:00:27","date_gmt":"2018-11-26T07:00:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.melaniebnewman.com\/staging\/9944\/?p=1250"},"modified":"2022-04-18T15:42:57","modified_gmt":"2022-04-18T21:42:57","slug":"when-responsibility-is-not-a-good-thing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.melaniebnewman.com\/staging\/9944\/when-responsibility-is-not-a-good-thing\/","title":{"rendered":"When Responsibility is Not a Good Thing"},"content":{"rendered":"

I am a very responsible person. In fact, I\u2019m so responsible that I can easily lose sight of my goal and end up focusing on the process instead.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let me explain.<\/p>\n

I have kept a gratitude journal for two or three years now. I\u2019ve gone through various formats, all with the intent to get better at keeping a gratitude journal.<\/p>\n

If anyone ever asked, \u201cWho in this audience keeps a gratitude journal?\u201d I could proudly raise my hand high. \u270b(Can you see where I was already getting off track?).<\/p>\n

Somewhere along the way, this exercise began to feel more of a burden than a blessing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I had lost sight of the reason I was daily writing down what I was thankful for.<\/p>\n

Where had I gone wrong?<\/p>\n

Thomas S. Monson said,<\/p>\n

“To express gratitude is gracious and honorable,
\n<\/em>to enact gratitude is generous and noble, but
\n<\/em>to live with gratitude ever in our hearts is to touch heaven.”<\/em><\/p>\n

* I was expressing gratitude. That was a good thing. Right? Expressing gratitude is gracious and honorable.<\/p>\n

* I was enacting gratitude by trying to incorporate it into my life. That is generous and noble.<\/p>\n

* But was I living with gratitude in my heart?<\/p>\n

I had overlooked that part.<\/p>\n

Writing in my journal had become my goal. Something I could check off my list and feel good about because I was keeping a commitment to myself. It was not necessarily changing me\u2026 yet.<\/p>\n

To change me, I needed to feel gratitude in my heart!<\/h3>\n

The real purpose of keeping a gratitude journal was to help me rise to living in a state of gratitude.<\/p>\n

I can think about being thankful all I want, but until I feel the emotion of gratitude, it cannot truly change my life.<\/h3>\n

When thankfulness is felt on an emotional level, gratitude then becomes a part of us<\/strong> and ripples out into the way we live and the way we influence others.<\/p>\n

During this season of thankfulness, I encourage you to allow yourself to feel gratitude in your heart.<\/p>\n

With love,
\n\"Melanie<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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