It would be so easy to be discouraged, to find something or someone to blame, to let the frustration and anger fester.<\/p>\n
Not long ago I did not know any other way to react to such an upsetting situation. I would embrace whatever I felt as if there were no other options. As if my feelings were not my responsibility.<\/p>\n
But I knew better now and it was time to make that choice.<\/p>\n
Wallow in frustration and disappointment, and lose not only yesterday\u2019s notes, but also today\u2019s experiences? Or put this misfortune on the back burner and be fully present in the moment?<\/p>\n
I did not want to miss a moment of new opportunities, so rather than dwell on the upset, I chose to focus on the opportunities ahead.<\/p>\n
How grateful I am! I experienced another day of wonderful speakers, information and spiritual insights.<\/p>\n
Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation?<\/p>\n
A mistake is made, whether your own or someone else\u2019s and you are struggling to be ok with it?<\/p>\n
Do you find yourself stewing in the mess of uncomfortable feelings because you forgot you had a choice?<\/p>\n
There\u2019s a simple tool I call the back-burner technique, which I\u2019ve used to help me through distressing times. It can make all the difference!<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve found that if I can\u2019t do anything in the moment about something that is upsetting me, I can put it on the back burner.<\/h3>\n
The issue is set aside to be addressed at a later time.<\/p>\n
It doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m ignoring or denying it\u2019s there, such as stuffing only to suddenly show up unexpectedly with negative results.<\/p>\n
It means I clear my mind to be present where I am, and return to the issue in a better frame of mind after the emotional moment has passed.<\/p>\n
I often discover I am able to quickly resolve the hardship because of the improved state of mind and balanced emotions. And even better, sometimes the issue has resolved itself.<\/p>\n
Learning this back-burner technique has saved me a lot of grief. And as I experienced recently, allowed me to grow in ways I might not have, if I had given in to the distress of the moment.<\/p>\n
I invite you to try for yourself this back-burner technique and discover the positive results. I\u2019d love to hear your results!<\/p>\n
Much love,
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Last weekend I attended a wonderful, two-day conference for women, full of inspiration and spiritual insight. But I had a moment that could have completely derailed that beautiful time. I am a note-taker. I like to glean all I can…<\/p>\n