{"id":2033,"date":"2019-10-21T05:30:30","date_gmt":"2019-10-21T11:30:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.melaniebnewman.com\/staging\/9944\/?p=2033"},"modified":"2022-04-18T15:19:26","modified_gmt":"2022-04-18T21:19:26","slug":"what-to-do-when-a-loved-one-is-struggling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.melaniebnewman.com\/staging\/9944\/what-to-do-when-a-loved-one-is-struggling\/","title":{"rendered":"What To Do When a Loved One is Struggling"},"content":{"rendered":"

What do you do when a loved one is struggling?<\/strong> It\u2019s hard, isn\u2019t it? You want to take away the pain and make life easy.<\/em><\/p>\n

Do you ever find yourself jumping in with suggestions and solutions, even though you know that is not what is needed at the time?<\/p>\n

Maybe you even try to stop yourself from offering advice but because you don\u2019t know what else to do, you just keep talking?<\/p>\n

I find myself in this predicament more often than I\u2019d like to admit. I want so desperately to ease their pain.<\/p>\n

I discovered something that is making a difference for me. Perhaps it can also help you.<\/p>\n

The first three steps may sound familiar, but awareness of the last two steps may make all the difference.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Rather than clumsily jumping in to try and rescue, take a moment to<\/p>\n

1. Listen<\/strong>. Listen with your ears, your eyes, with all your senses to see the other person. Listen for what is in her heart.<\/p>\n

2. Pray.<\/strong> Inwardly ask God for direction.<\/p>\n

3. Listen again.<\/strong> Listen to what the Spirit is now telling you.<\/p>\n

The next two steps are vital.<\/p>\n

4. Help as directed<\/strong>.<\/em> It may mean taking action, saying or doing something. Or it may mean to do nothing at all.<\/p>\n

The final, step, may be the hardest.<\/p>\n

5. Allow.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Allow the Spirit to influence both of you.<\/p>\n

Allow the other person to have his own experience, that is meant just for him.<\/p>\n

Your part in this situation is peripheral. It isn\u2019t about you.<\/p>\n

You are being given the opportunity to support, encourage, uplift, in the way that is best for the other person.<\/p>\n

Allowing may be the hardest part of these directions. The holding back, the listening and waiting for direction. <\/strong><\/p>\n

What if that direction is to not do anything but just love and encourage?<\/p>\n

You can do it.<\/p>\n

Feel the peace that comes from listening to promptings, and trusting that this experience is for their growth.<\/p>\n

You are giving your struggling loved one the gift of allowing.<\/h3>\n

With love,
\n\"Melanie<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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